12 practical tips to improve a person’s character
If you do not make it up, the actions will remain blurry. When you have not decided what you want, there is a high probability that you will remain stagnating.
Outline a plan on exactly how it is planned to work on polishing one or another quality, naming concrete actions and habits: what to start doing, and from what, on the contrary, give up.
For example, being too hot-tempered person, it is important to add this quality to your black list. Then write down what you want to strive for - for example, restraint. And start the transformation from this point.
It should be fixed exactly what our actions give us a hot temper. For example, the habit of being rude to sellers and waiters, finding fault with relatives on small things, shouting at subordinates.
Here you can not do without exercises.
For example, when dealing with a hot temper at the surface level, several primitive techniques help:
- Before reacting to the “stimulus”, count to 10. An elementary, but effective approach - although at first it may be necessary to count to 50.
- Take a deep breath - just do not overdo it, so as not to feel dizzy.
- Drink a glass of water, imagining how the anger leaves us with each new sip.
- Trying to forcefully add to your speech a maximum of words that soften it: "I think ...", "It seems to me ...", "Sorry", "Thank you", "I agree."