The problem of adaptation of first-graders. Temperaments of children
Probably there are no parents now who would not hear about the different types of temperament of children. I recall that there are usually 4 types of temperament:
- sanguine person
- phlegmatic person
It is important to note that pure types of temperament almost never occur. However, one of them dominates the child. Usually in preschool age type of temperament looms quite clearly. Let's talk about which difficulties may arise in children of different temperaments due to addiction to the learning process.
Your child is a choleric
Perhaps most of all problems with addiction to school discipline occurs in children choleric temperament. They are active and energetic, but, to Unfortunately, they can be hyperactive, super-energetic. If the child is choleric “Broke up” during the game, it is very difficult for him to calm down or move from active activities to classes, for example, a letter or invoice. And most importantly, he is not only it is difficult to switch, but for him any exercises that require perseverance are generally difficult and attention, measured work. He is tireless when it comes to motor activities (physical education, intellectual activities, consisting mainly of from active communication, not passive listening).
Choleric children find it hard to control their emotions, and sitting on one place they just can not do! Imagine how to behave such active and mobile students in school. Some teachers complain that already with the first minutes they interfere with the lesson, distract from the activities of other children. And it is considered that children specifically violate the discipline, because link behavior baby with his temperament is not accepted. Not realizing that from the child in this situation nothing depends, the teacher concludes that he simply does not want to obey, treats him badly. Then takes appropriate measures to eliminate problems (teaches a child to discipline, punishing for "wrong" behavior, speaks with him stricter than others, etc.)
In a situation like this, your baby will complain that others the teacher loves children, and he only gets angry at him and even screams, does not want to ask and call to the board (that's why he shakes his hand, jumps up and shouts out answers when not asked). The child does not deceive you - he just tells about what feels like. It is not difficult to guess that the teacher will call your baby uncontrollable, blames him for preventing children from working and all the time attention, wants to respond when other students are interviewed, cannot sit quietly and listen to explanations, but try to engage in dialogue, etc. Believe me, and the teacher is not far from the truth. With the traditional system of education, in the classroom 25 - 30 people children should be able to sit quietly and calmly for quite enough a long period of time, while listening to the explanations of the teacher and the answers of others students, do not enter into dialogue, with the rapid implementation of the task silently wait, until the work is completed more sluggish comrades, etc.
What can advise parents whose children show obvious signs of choleric temperament? The article is addressed to the first-graders' moms and dads, but maybe her parents read it too.They should recommend the following:
find in advance a school in which training is conducted according to the author's programs, providing lessons in an unconventional form (for example, joint searching for the necessary solution instead of the traditional explanation that allows the child be not a passive listener, but an active co-author of a teacher, etc.)
try to find a teacher who conducts training at the initial stage gaming methods. This will greatly facilitate the adaptation to school;
to enroll the child in preparatory courses at the school (such courses were mentioned higher). There, the child will gradually be accustomed to the requirements of discipline, to regulation of time and action, etc.
And parents of first-graders should be patient. Temperament child change is impossible, and not necessary. After all, there are no bad and good temperaments, they all have their strengths and weaknesses. Parents of choleric children should they themselves strive to develop such qualities as perseverance from their baby, patience, to discipline. After all, it is so useful to him in the future! Speak with the teacher, tell us about the features of your child, try to work together efforts to minimize all the difficulties of the adaptation period.
Your child is a sanguine person
Most likely, you have far fewer problems than other parents. Sanguine children are usually cheerful, energetic, easily included in the work, quickly get used to the requirements of discipline. Of course, and your child may first get confused, hitting an unusual environment for him. But very soon in class with him there will be many friends and interesting things, so the kid will go to school without whims and even with pleasure.
Your child is phlegmatic
Perhaps your baby will be called one of the most disciplined in class. After all, it is not at all difficult for him to endure a 30–35 minute lesson and calm. However, there may be problems associated with delayed reactions. baby It is especially difficult for a phlegmatic student to keep up with the pace of the lesson of a choleric teacher. Of course, it would be ideal if the temperament of the teacher and students coincided, But this is not always the case. You need to talk to the teacher, to tell that the baby may sometimes not immediately answer his question, not because that he did not learn a lesson or does not know something. Just a child is slower to respond. on the questions slowed down, can not quickly turn on the work. You can not blame the baby for being slow, he needs to be given time to prepare for answer, switch from one activity to another.
Parents will greatly facilitate the adaptation of the child phlegmatic to the pace of lessons, if they often spend with him games with elements of competition (“Who will answer faster”, “Who will find faster”, etc.) If there is an opportunity play with a group of children, offer them a fun and exciting game “Quick answers. ” At a fast pace, children on the same line are asked questions; which need to be answered immediately, without much thought. The most simple questions and they can be answered not only literally, but also jokingly. For example, to the question: “Why is ice cream cold?” - you can answer: “Because it is in the fridge”. Answering the question takes a step forward. The one who first reaches the finish line wins.He becomes the leader in the next game. Very useful will also be ball games: football, volleyball, a sudden throwing of the ball to each other, accompanied by with the words “on”, “hold”, “catch”, “throw”, “catch”.
Your baby is melancholic
Problems with school discipline in your baby, most likely, will not occur. However, it may be difficult to learn a child, because of all types temperaments melancholic - the only weak. And that means baby cannot withstand prolonged mental stress. He quickly gets tired in school, needs frequent breaks, longer rest.
Melancholic children are very sensitive, react painfully for any comments of the teacher, do not make harsh and rude remarks in your address. What others will perceive as a trifle is a tragedy for them. It is not easy to add up vulnerable children have a relationship with classmates. Any minor conflict may permanently bring them out of balance. As a consequence - tears, reluctance to go to school, complaints about the rudeness of children and the ill-will of the teacher.
Do not try to "remake" your child, in any case Do not scold for the tearfulness, touchiness, etc. But help adapt to school life, to support him in a difficult moment you can. Tell your baby that one should not despair in the most seemingly unpleasant situation (not all as bad as it seems). All people have unimportant moods or feelings, at this moment they are not as kind as they would like, they can impolitely answer, abruptly interrupt the interlocutor. Do not take this as a personal tragedy, but just try not to pay attention to such things, not to worry about any about
With regard to the rapid fatigue of the child, they can help frequent breaks, physical exercises, conducted as during homework, and in school. Talk to the teacher, find out how he works with children. The teacher of an authoritarian type will suit your child least of all, conducting classes in a rigid manner. Ideal - teacher, leading lessons in a playful way, using intervals for emotional and psychological relief. In any case, you can convince the teacher to consider the temperament of your child, who with all the desire can not be as efficient as, say, a sanguine person.